Love, and being loved in Cape May Beaches

Author: Kamala Budhathoki 'Sarup'

On the beaches of Cape May, one can hear many different kinds of talks. When people talk about life, love and wedding, and other gather around to listen, it sometimes feels as if a big conversation had been organized. This type of thing has been recurring over the past few days. On the beach, close to my house, some people talk about the politics, weather, with long sighs. Others talk about the jobs and
travel, and still others talk about public expenditures, cold, Snow and the Shore. As we know, Cape May has some of the most beautiful Jersey Shore beaches.

I do like to talk on the beach in Wild wood. I feel happy when my friends and people talk about love, wedding, poetry and life. I hear scores of stories comparable to Romeo and Juliet, - a popular work of literature about a loving husband and wife whose tale ends in tragedy is often repeated.

Today, it is especially not cold in the beach of Wild wood, hot than other days. A crowd surrounds two people in the beach, enjoying the loud argument they are having. One of them is smartly dressed in a suit and the other seems to be in a philosophic mood. The smartly dressed one asks: "Do you like life, love and the Shore?" The philosophic-looking man responds, "To tell you the truth, I like it."

To which, the smartly dressed man comes forwards and says, "That's a beautiful thing to say. I believe that with love comes change. Why wouldn't we like that?" The philosopher continues.

The well-dressed man responds, "You were talking about love, wedding, and poems just a moment ago, but now you talk about economy and employment?." This angers the philosopher a little. He says, "You all must try to understand what I am saying. Yes, I do agree that each of  us has his own problems. The present time and, naturally, it has also impacted the economic aspect of life."

He further added " We have more other options to show our hard work to children about how there is beauty and love in our life". As I prepare to leave the beach, he continues, " From now on, we are for love, and being loved in this beautiful Cape May." 

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Woman Fight All Alone

Author:Kamala Budhathoki Sarup

http://www.capemaycountyherald.com/opinion/letters_to_the_editor/article_fad55392-c1a1-5212-b024-0700c79ed519.html

Rape Stigma Must Stop

Author:Kamala Budhathoki Sarup
http://www.capemaycountyherald.com/archives/article_20fbafb1-31ce-58ad-90f6-d0c94b4caa8f.html

Abuses Against HIV/AIDS Carriers

Author:Kamala Budhathoki Sarup
http://www.capemaycountyherald.com/archives/article_be9ae29c-161f-58b3-b74c-40ab1df36f54.html

The responsible leaders should have appropriate plan

Author: Kamala Budhathoki 'Sarup'

People are to continue suffering with lack of law and order and uncontrolled and uneven inflation and commodity prices.The responsible leaders should have appropriate plan – as fornext after. In fact, if they are plan less, vision less and thoughtless. The people weighted them as painless and not obligatory to the general public. 

If the political leaders are hungry and thirsty of power only, so that they always would like to remain in the front line of the politics. Politics should not be for own sake or for leader sake, for people sake.

We see talking politics men-to-men, leader –to –leader and party-to-party.

On the appetite of a healthy leadership, is seeking thebest leader – who is that? As the study showed, the generalpublic are hue and cry in political crisis and out of democracy, freedom, peace and employment and they are being faced the hardships to spend the normal life. The people facing under the cloud of uncertainty and violence is not good. Once again peoplev may come to display in search of freedom, peace and security and democracy.

"We are facing the unsettled landscape and challenges to eligibility to every exercise. There is no any effort or progress seento end the era. Some leaders are not fully capable to maintain peaceand stability". Said Dr. Surendra Bhakta Pradhanang, who is an award winning personality whose work has helped create a new face for tourism and economic development and the best thinker of village development and the development further added "people always want to see the leaders held more accountable."

Let the people decide the development and democracy they want. People's economic development and democracy must not be limited within the paper and speech. In politics must not be for the leaders. Despite, politics must be for the welfare and people's desire.No change, it is experienced, is seen in the politics at all though wetalk about people's democracy. In the the heart of the general people known as the strength of People's Democracy, person-to –person. 

Due to fear, insurgency and instability, people are out of normal life facing horror and danger in every walk of life". Pradhang further said Hence, if the politics remains exceedingly tense and dangerous. This time we can expect nothing for personal benefit.For the people's interest and people's welfare the politics could not have been set at all.

Anyway, people want and need people -oriented democracy and employment not leader-oriented. The system of freedom and democracy must be established.

No progress is possible and nothing can be helped to the people unless and until the politics is free from vandalism, insult, personal selfishness and danger of power politics in real terms.

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Searching for a dynamic leader.

Author: 

• Kamala Budhathoki 'Sarup'

During the 1980s, participation of women's political and economic sectors was very low. The United Nations' declaration of an International Women's Year and Decade (1975-1985) started discussion and debate on women's rights. Yet the role played by women in the development of the country remained insignificant. The world has yet to realize the importance of eradicating discrimination against women.Women are playing a greater role in
politics and economics these days -- but their participation in politics
is far from the fifty percent that would represent equal and fair
representation. More than ninety percent of women have been affected by
the violence. Since the terrorism/conflic and war started, rapes and kidnappings have
increased. Prostitution has increased. Kidnappings and torture still
take place.
The forced recruitment of young women into the armed forces and
terrorism is another serious issue.
Most women, especially in rural areas, are incapable of fighting for
their rights. Democratic reforms in many countries provided an
opportunity for some
women to become active. Women's organizations arose and offered support
to women who wanted to share their problems and experiences -- but after
a few years they disappeared. Nowadays women's organizations are
satisfied with carrying out small programs for women, but they are not
bringing any real change in the status of women.

It is true that the women organization nowadays encourages women to
participate in political affairs. But they are still held back by the
parochial culture, particularly in the villages. It is a positive sign
that women are being recruited for the army and other posts, but still
women's participation in politics remains nominal. This applies to
both urban and rural areas. Most women simply avoid politics.

World wide, millions of women live below the poverty line and must
struggle from day to day to make ends meet. Despite their suffering, in
most cases they provide the stability to hold the family together.

World's leaders have consistently said that they would undertake to
improve women's status. But the leaders are adept at changing their
colors and goals, and adjusting to a changing environment. It is this
ability that allowed them to come to the cities. However, they are in
chains. Their hands are tied and their mouths are sealed in the Cabinet.  

Misunderstandings, misconceptions, mistrust and tensions abound among
themselves due to the absence of capable leadership. The empowerment of
women is critical to the world's social and economic development. A
good educational program to educate women in how to manage their
finances and maintain fiscal discipline would be welcome. Women play a
key role in shaping and safeguarding culture and society.

Good economic programs and opportunities are needed to help increase the
income of women and help reduce poverty. It is the consensus of women
that a stable government must be established for all-round development
and freedom of opportunity, both in rights and duties. Women are
searching for a dynamic new leader.

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Preventing Crime in New Jersey

Author: Kamala Budhathoki Sarup

Published in Cape May County Herald.

Recently, around midnight, two young men were trying to steal some money from my car. Unknowingly, they tripped the car alarm and I woke up as soon as it went off since my bedroom is very close to the driveway. They stole my registration and insurance card. I immediately called Middle Township Police. The police were very kind and helpful, and I’d like to thank them.

 This is one example of many of increasing terror/ criminal activities in New Jersey, which is an issue we need to address without delay. We have to make sure we are taking appropriate action to deter crimes throughout New Jersey. According to a report on NJ.com, the 2015 FBI data showed there were 363 murders in New Jersey – up from 349 the previous year. The slight bump increased the rate to 4.1 murders per 100,000 residents. 

Sexual assault, murder, manslaughter, rape, and robbery are also increasing. Last month, in some counties, disputes between police and criminals resulted in shootings. Crime seems to be rising steadily and violently at an accelerating rate in New Jersey’s major counties. The above-mentioned issues might affect tourism, which in turn will affect New Jersey’s economy as a whole. New Jersey is a beautiful state but recently, higher taxes, limited job opportunities, crimes and poorly paid workers are adding to poverty, and need to be addressed properly.

 I think this has and will hinder the growth of New Jersey’s economy and the rise of crime now and in the future. The executive director of the United Nations Office on Drugs and Crime, Yury Fedotov, told the Convention in Vienna, the 2030 agenda for sustainable development acknowledged that confronting crime and promoting the rule of law were essential to the achievement of the sustainable development goals. World Health Organization said, “We need to integrate violence prevention into social and educational policies, and thereby promote social equality.” 

There is a variety of intervention programs we need to implement that may help people, especially young people, stop committing crimes. If our goal is to reduce crimes then programs related to those should be located in local areas. We also need a systematic approach to support schools to activate their involvement against crime activities to develop these kinds of programs that will demonstrate positive results. We also need to teach crime resolution skills to our small children.

 In my opinion, the key to making New Jersey less dangerous is to reduce the time and effort that makes it so expensive to arrest and convict the guilty people, costing more for New Jersey as a whole. I think creating more job opportunities will reduce the crime. It is a basic human right to live crime free and from being a victim of one. However, many countries around the globe failed to identify the problems and have no program against it that has left many people with no choice but to become a victim of crime.

 There is an urgent need for crime protection and human rights monitoring.

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When you trust in love, miracles happen.

By Kamala Budhathoki Sarup  This is the true story. 
"Your friend is beautiful. Only yesterday, the son of my uncle had written a letter to me." He was protective of her. He turned towards the south, looking through the corner of his eyes all the while ignoring my talk. "I came to this city swearing my love of her. Sometimes I become sad, for the image of Paru comes in my mind day and night," he said.

He quickly finished a packet of cigarette. He is the most frank person in our group, so it can also be said that there is no one against him. "One needs to have patience in love," sitting beside me, he spoke while taking a sip of tea.

"What am I doing if it is not patiently waiting? Not only this much, but I'm ready to wait throughout my entire life for Paru," he further said.

As always, he was straightforward and blunt, and at times, we were anxious of his habit of becoming silent after being angry. "It makes no difference if anyone  tells me off or criticizes me," he said, standing up and heading towards his room. I guessed he had not liked my good-natured joking about Paru as it made his heart ache bitterly.

'How this girl could have walked without looking people walking in front though she has age and grown up to youth?' Once my sister had scolded Paru in the morning while she was walking down the street. 'Why you answering back this way? Don't you mind the manner of how to speak with the elders?' my sister had spoken instantly. Had we not been there, fight would have been taken place between them. After that, 'Until your sharp-tongued sister will remain I will never stop at your home,' She had sworn. I remembered my past. 
Every evening, remembering they would brag with me for resigning the job and go to village. 'How you will bring her after resigning job? Marriage is yet to be done. You should not get frustrated this way.' I did not know whether he would like or dislike at the talk I would convince him but his face would always get sad while I use to talk.

'Day after tomorrow I should move for village. Just after two days when I reach  village, I will marry her.' He had spoken with boast without taking a breath. 'If mother does not let me marry, I will straightly get back catching a bus to a big city. I have taken a return ticket, too. I should move in the morning.' Before giving me chance to speak a word, he had displayed the ticket towards me. 'How you dared to bring the ticket without doing any consultations? You should have asked for a word if you are going. If you do as you please then I can do nothing.' I had scolded him so badly. Then after without speaking even a single word with me he left.
I sensed that he had not informed her that he was coming.

"Are you informed? They are married now". A colleague of our group, informed it to others. I became really happy.

Fortunately, when he used to get depressed, he used alcohol to numb the feelings of sorrow and loneliness. But because of his love he accepts the consequences, and moves forward. Later, I heard, he has not had a drink since he got his love her. Nowadays, he is able to handle his depression without using alcohol to numb it. In any case, he has decided not to drink for life.
For when you trust in love, miracles happen.

"If I get the chance to marry your friend." My college friend spoke, lighting a cigarette while sitting beside the balcony one evening. "You're in here. Will she preserve her youth for you there at the village?" I smiled and told him.



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Unemployment And Depression

Unemployment And Depression -
Kamala Budhathoki Sarup
Published in Cape May County Herald.

http://www.capemaycountyherald.com/opinion/letters_to_the_editor/article_eafc470c-5a69-54fb-b1ef-9ae4b03821a3.html

Increase Minimum Wage

By Kamala Budhathoki Sarup 

 Published in Cape May County Herald.

New Jersey Gov. Chris Christie vetoed legislation that would have raised the state’s minimum wage from $8.38 to $15 an hour following New Jersey State Senate’s approval which would have implemented a gradual increase.

It's the second time Christie rejected a minimum wage hike. He stated that increasing wages would make businesses in New Jersey unaffordable.

According to media reports, when announcing his veto Christie stated, "All of this sounds great, raising the minimum wage, when you're spending someone else's money."

In my opinion, it is very important to raise the minimum wage for many single mothers and people who are having a hard time living with a minimum paycheck. Most men and women who are holding low-paying jobs in New Jersey are dependent on government support like food stamps, partial unemployment, etc., because they can't afford it even if they work two jobs with minimum wage pay. Even when people work more than 40 hours in a week, they are still unable to support their family and this is a sad reality we are facing right now.

After Labor Day, there are very few full-time jobs in areas of Cape May County. Many people who work in retail stores, restaurants and hotels start working fewer hours. Many people are unable to get jobs in the winter season because they can't find the full-time jobs they want and need. Raising the minimum wage is the best way to increase the living standard and people will have to be less dependent upon the government.

Increasing the wages doesn't necessarily mean low profits for companies. Looking at the wages provided to the employees at Costco Wholesale Corporation (one of the largest retailers in the world) proves it. Costco pays more than other retail companies in the U.S. By doing this, employees are more than satisfied. Hence, Costco can be an example; if you pay more than the minimum to your employees you get the best people to work for you which results in an increase in business and economy.

I don’t think raising wages will result in short-term success, as the government assistance system needs to be reformed, but in the long run, raising the minimum wage is the best way to stimulate our economy in New Jersey. 

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Laws, Education Needed to Combat Child Pornography

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The body decays – but love endures.

By Kamala Budhathoki Sarup Kamala 

 

Published in UPI Asia Blog, Newsblaze.com, Opednews.com, Scoop.co.nz, Webcommentary.com, mediaforfreedom.com 

 

"Lovely friend Kamala," my friend sent me these words by email. "Whenever you allow yourself to feel the extreme of love and the extreme of freedom and peace, pain and sorrow will be wiped out. My words will provide you a place as the morning breeze does. This is the foundation of love and peace." This part of the long email sent by my friend suddenly increased the beatings of my heart. I wonder how it is that love sent through an email can play such a sensitive role in my life. "One can live in a loving atmosphere." This is a lesson that I learned from my friend. I too started to send my feelings via email. "When I feel love for small children, older people, poor people, that moment becomes the most important moment imaginable. The imagination recalls; so sweet a recollection I never expected.

 

 I am certain that people are lovely, like the touch of poem – it seems as if our love could be permanent and unbelievable." A cool breeze is blowing and I can see the long river outside. It has become my duty to look out at this lively river. “What I am feeling now is that our way of thinking, assumptions and lifestyle are similar. I believe in deep friendship, which I think must be delicate as well. I am fond of flowers. I love children. " In the early morning, I passed on this message to my friend through the telephone. I am not sure whether my friend heard the word flower or not, but what is a comfort to me is that my friend seems as delicate as me; perhaps my friend is a good student and a poet. I can feel delicacy in voice. 

 

Although friend speaks well and clearly into the phone, it feels as though we are on opposite sides of this earth. Probably, we will meet soon or see one another. The result of this probability could be positive. And now, yet again, I watch the people walking on the road while I sit on the bench outside of my home. Like the people, I am also busy. My school friend had invited me on a trip to visit Washington, DC, with him, for a holiday. 

 

I had replied civilly, "Thank you! But I am so busy that I don't even have time to think for myself. Maybe I'll be unable to maintain to visit for awhile. We are both are so busy and don't have leisure time to spend. It is better to keep our lives separate." he became quite sad and went off without notice. I suddenly felt uneasy and sought the refuge of my home. Turning back to the computer, I see another email from my friend, asking me to send my photo. Email makes me forget myself. I begin yet another email response. 

 

"The sky and heart should be unified. We are to live for our future and the plans that we imagine. I love you, I love children, I love older people, I love poor people. But I can't express enough love. Our love may or may not bring us together, but what is certain is that it will live a long time, like a story or poem. "We must continue our love for children and women. Love is far more important. The body decays – but love endures. If we accept this principle, we will be one step forward in the field of love and we can dedicate ourselves for the immortality of love forgiveness, kindness, freedom and peace."

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Needed to Combat Child Pornography

Kamala Budhathoki Sarup 

Published in Cape May County Herald. http://www.capemaycountyherald.com/opinion/letters_to_the_editor/article_8b083070-6ad8-11e6-8a75-ab77029456af.html

New Jersey police arrested 40 people from every county in N.J. in August 2016, for the possession and distribution of child pornography. N.J. State Police said the arrests were "the result of a proactive scanning of Internet traffic to discover who was sharing and downloading these files across N.J."

A conviction for possessing pornographic images that are illegal or involves a minor is considered one of the greatest crimes in the country and can result in fines, and convictions including up to 15 years in federal prison as well as registration as a sex offender.

Child pornography is one of the major leading causes of the exploitation and abuse of a minor or person under the legal age of consent. Usually, it involves children below the age of 18 years. It is also often associated with child prostitution or becoming a sex slave.

Child pornography not only includes videos but writing and pictures which are produced by either direct involvement or simulation. Even though serious laws are present against these activities it is still prevailing as well as growing in number.

Yury Fedotov, executive director of the United Nations Office on Drugs and Crime, states that "the exploitation of children is not a new phenomenon, but the digital age has exacerbated the problem and created more vulnerability to the children.”

There are numerous factors that make children more vulnerable to online abuse. The globalized and anonymous cyber space also helps predators escape detection in new ways, and a multitude of technical challenges hinder police abilities to identify and address child pornography offenses. A lack of an appropriate legislation across the globe is also a major impediment for investigations and prosecutions.

While observing the present scenario, the explicit picture of children affected by sexual crimes can be seen. Moreover, it has highly affected the sector of education. Therefore, thousands of minors have been directly hampered in the field of education. With the growing child pornography crime throughout the world, I urge to have more legal rights in expectation for their better safety. I think doing so will also increase social and community motivation because it is easy to avoid child pornography but hard to eliminate it.

Biraj Budhathoki, a civil engineer working to defend children's rights in Asia said, "Minors especially living on or below the poverty line are "extremely vulnerable" towards sexual crime and also they are under threat from HIV/AIDS. The psychosocial effects on children can be devastating and may haunt them through life. Many children exposed to horrible acts of sexual violence during key developmental years, come to accept violent acts as a normal part of their life. This is putting young children at risk for continuing cycles of violence.”

Community-based education is needed.

There's also a need for psychologists to advocate for policies that support children affected by sexual violence, and to help deliver other services, such as providing health support in N.J. Normalcy and balance are essential to their lives and to their emotional well-being in the community.

All emergency assistance in N.J. should specifically address sexual violence and it must be brought under control. There can no longer be any excuses, no acceptable argument for exploiting children for sex, and child pornography in N.J.

Unsafe Driving, Traffic Violations in NJ

Unsafe Driving, Traffic Violations in NJ 

By Kamala Budhathoki Sarup.

Published in Cape May County Herald. 

 

Death from unsafe driving, traffic violations, and traffic accidents are high in New Jersey and are increasing. Not only do they cause risk to one's health but they can have aftereffects too.

According to media reports, in 2015, there were 501 road accidents that led to 541 deaths in New Jersey. According to data presented by Allstate Insurance in 2012, New Jersey was named “home to the second worst drivers” in the country, which was printed in Forbes magazine. New Jersey Department of Transportation released a report that included approximately 62,000 accidents in 2014. Most car accidents in New Jersey occur on municipal or county roads. We experience a large number of accidents during the holiday season in Cape May County.

According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, more than one-third of teenage deaths in the U.S. are the result of motor vehicle crashes. The reason: “Most teens around the country are inexperienced and don’t have enough practice and knowledge when they get behind the wheel of a car,” stated Jason Friedman, founder, and CEO of Drive Safer.

When I got a careless driving ticket from Middle Township police last month, I knew it was not a major accident but I was still scared.

I am very thankful to new Middle Township Judge Dorothy Incarvito-Garrabrant. She was wonderful. The court was very busy and most were there for traffic violations. The way Judge Garrabrant and her prosecutor dealt with each case to remind people to respect the law, become a better driver and citizen, the more I got inspired from her. At the end of the day, I set my mind to help and convince other people about the laws as well as the safety of the roads, the effects and how it affects the lives of the people and the community.

When one meets with an accident, he should immediately inform police and one should not flee the scene as it may raise further questions about the accident. If the owner of the car is present, he should exchange information regarding his phone number and other information. Reporting it is a good thing as it can in most cases avoid death and damage of lives and property. Your driving history is one of the biggest factors in determining what you pay for car insurance.

Young drivers in New Jersey run a greater risk everywhere and this problem is still largely unsolved. Distracted driving is a serious problem on the roads, especially due to the use of mobile devices.

It is very important to encourage people with new teen drivers in New Jersey to get educated about New Jersey’s Graduated Driver’s License (GDL) program. It is very important to save lives by preventing injuries and deaths at work, in homes and communities, and on the road through leadership, research, education and advocacy in New Jersey from the start of high school. 

The need for prioritization of road safety education with a focus on issues like drunk driving, speeding, and negligent and reckless driving are among the main recommendations that need to be noted if we want to prevent traffic violations or deaths in New Jersey.

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